This first step focuses on what you can and cannot control within your relationship, especially during periods of strife and chaos. When going through relationship challenges, it can be easy to focus on what the other person has said or done and how you think they should change to help repair the relationship. However, it is important to remember that you can’t make the other person change.
While facing relationship challenges, it can be helpful to remind yourself that you are only able to control your own thoughts, actions, and emotions within the relationship. You and the other person are separate individuals, and though you may not always agree with the other person, you do have the choice to understand that they have the right to make their own life decisions.
An affirmation to help you practice this point is: “The other person is choosing to act this way. I would make a different choice, but I can accept that their choice is their own.”
The information in today’s blog was adapted from one of our earlier series, “In the Midst of Relationship Chaos.” To see the original post, check out the following link: http://www.guilfordhri.org/in-the-midst-of-relationship-chaos-step-1-remember-that-you-cant-change-the-other-person/