Supporting a Loved One With An Addiction: Tip 3
It is important to figure out the behaviors we are willing to live with and the ones we aren’t. Then, it is crucial to communicate those with our loved one. These are not threats or ultimatums. This is not about begging, bargaining, or yelling, nor are they attempts to change their behavior.
Boundaries are about taking care of ourselves and refusing to live in situations where we feel hopeless, helpless, or afraid. With practice, we learn to detach from addictive behaviors and allow natural consequences.
While setting boundaries can feel counterintuitive when supporting someone with an addiction, it can be exactly what is needed to maintain and to rebuild the relationship over time.
From HRI blog post, When Help Isn’t What They Want.