Supporting a Loved One With An Addiction: Tip 2
Oftentimes, we think of enabling behaviors as obvious actions, but in the context of addiction, it is much more complicated than that.
Enabling behaviors take lots of different forms. When we justify someone’s drinking by telling ourselves or others that they’re just going through a tough time or that work is hard right now, we are enabling.
When we control the lives of our loved ones by cancelling social engagements or pouring out their alcohol to “help” them stop, we are enabling.
Not only is understanding enabling important, so is being honest with yourself if you see enabling tendencies in your own behavior. Making strides to change enabling tendencies in yourself will only help your loved one in the long run.
This post was adapted from: When Helping is Hurting: Understanding Enabling.