Part of being a successful co-parent means temporarily setting aside feelings of hurt or anger to focus on your child’s needs and effectively work together with your co-parent. This doesn’t mean that you have to push down or minimize your emotions. Your feelings matter, and you are allowed to be hurt and/or upset. Instead, this just means that it is important for you to try your best not to let your emotions drive your parenting behaviors, especially when it comes to making joint decisions and helping your child build a healthy relationship with both you and your co-parent.
We encourage you to own and process your emotions in a healthy way. This may mean going to a therapist/counselor, engaging in self-care like exercise, journaling, or mindfulness, or talking to a close friend for social support. When you own and process your emotions, you will be better equipped to handle tough co-parenting situations, while also modeling healthy emotional expression to your child!