An essential part of being a healthy relationship role model is owning your emotions. This means taking responsibility for your emotions and reactions and expressing your feelings in a healthy way.
An important part of modeling healthy emotional expression is teaching your kids that it is okay to get upset or feel afraid, while also showing them how to express these emotions in a healthy way. This may look like communicating with your kids when you are upset or angry with them and saying that you need to take a break to calm down. By modeling this behavior in your relationships with your children, they will have a better understanding of how to respond when they feel upset with you, other adults, or their friends.
When you take ownership of your emotions and show that only you can control what you feel, you are teaching your kids to take responsibility for their feelings and reactions, which will help them develop happy, healthy, and safe relationships in the future.