AFTER THE DIVORCE: Don’t assume just because the divorce is over, that the kids are “over it.”
Just because the divorce process is over doesn’t mean that the family is finished adjusting or that the kids are finished processing!
Healing from divorce takes time, and it makes sense that it takes a little longer for children as they need more time to process and accept all of the changes that divorce brings.
While ex-partners may be anxious to move on quickly, it’s important to remember that just because the proceedings are over doesn’t mean that healing is.
This series was adapted from the following article in partnership with Triad Moms on Main.
We are excited to partner once again with Healthy UNCG to provide a series of programming dedicated to promoting healthy relationships at work and at home during the pandemic! This program, presented by HRI Program Coordinator, Camila Dos Santos, will focus on how to recognize burnout, overcome and prevent it in the future.
To attend this free virtual program, please connect to the HRI Facebook page (@HealthyRelationshipsInitiative) on October 29, 2020 at 11:00-12:00 PM.
We are excited to partner once again with Healthy UNCG to provide a series of programming dedicated to promoting healthy relationships at work and at home during the pandemic! This program, presented by HRI Director, Dr. Christine Murray, will focus on how to build healthy communication and set healthy boundaries in relationships and is free to all who attend.
Tip 2: Don’t take misbehavior or negative emotions by young kids personally.
Going through a divorce is hard on the entire family. It’s important for parents to remember not to take the things that their children may do personally. When children are struggling to deal with a situation, they can respond by misbehaving or through other negative emotions, such as anger, anxiety, or frustration.
If you notice that your child(ren) seems overwhelmed, consider going for a walk outside and giving them an opportunity to talk about it or doing an arts and crafts project together while asking them open-ended questions about their feelings.
Having coping strategies in place can help minimize negative behaviors in young children and help the entire family cope with tough days during a divorce. However, it may not prevent misbehavior entirely, and so parents must remember not to take this personally during a divorce.
This series was adapted from the following article.
HRI is partnering with Fellowship Hall for another program in our Lived Experiences Professional Training Institute!
The HRI Lived Experiences Professional Training Institute is designed to provide professionals with an opportunity to hear from people who have lived through a particular experience. The idea is that professionals can learn from individuals who have gone through a particular circumstance, and can gain insights into how best to support and work with the families or individuals they serve.
On Tuesday, September 22nd, we will hear from several panelists who are in recovery, or who are parents of someone in recovery, as they share their journeys of how addiction and the road to recovery has impacted areas of their lives, including being a parent.
Due to the nature of this program, only professionals who work with those impacted by addiction may register for and attend this training. Please complete one registration per participant, as each link to connect is unique.
BEFORE THE DIVORCE: Get on the same page about how you will tell the child(ren) and how you will deal with difficult situations about the kids in the future.
It’s crucial for soon-to-be ex-spouses to be on the same page about how they will tell the kids about a divorce. While young children will still struggle with the changes that divorce brings, presenting a united front as parents can help make the process less traumatic for the entire family.
This series was adapted from the following article in partnership with Triad Moms on Main.
Hot off the press: HRI E-Book: Healthy Sibling Relationships
Sibling relationships are often some of our longest relationships, and while they can be complex and at times challenging, they can also be a source of deep connection and happiness. In fact, research indicates that people who have strong emotional connections with their sibling(s) have increased life satisfaction and lower rates of depression during early adulthood (Milevsky, 2005).
We’ve partnered with Bringing Out the Best at UNC Greensboro to provide families with a free resource on how to foster healthy relationships amongst siblings. Whether you’re a parent of an elementary student or teen, there are insights in this book for you!
By HRI Program Coordinator, Camila Dos Santos, M.Ed.
The endless stressors couples are facing during the pandemic (such as quarantining, homeschooling, working from home or not working at all) are increasing the chances for more divorces in a post-pandemic USA.
It’s not entirely surprising, as difficult and uncertain times cause conflicts in our relationships and oftentimes, our partner relationships are the ones feel the most strain. Combine that with the fact that many couples have limited places to go during the pandemic and it’s no surprise that couple relationships are struggling.
Through HRI, we promote happy, healthy, and safe relationships of all kinds. If your relationship is free from abuse and both partners are willing to put forth effort, it is possible to repair it with the help of counseling.
However, sometimes for partners, the healthiest way to move forward for the entire family is divorce. HRI is here to support and provide resources for couples and and families in this situation. Stay tuned as this week, we will share tips on how parents can support young children through divorce.
Whether your marriage or long-term relationship is in distress or you’re being proactive, check out our Toolkit for Couples and E-Book on Keeping the Love Alive to gain insights on how to strengthen your partner relationship.
Regardless of the stage that your relationship is in, HRI has a resource that can help you move forward in a healthy, happy, and safe way.
“The words of the tongue should have three gatekeepers:
Is it true?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?”
– unknown
In healthy relationships, people mind their words and speak with respect, especially when working through conflict. These 3 questions can help keep difficult conversations in relationships healthy and respectful.
It’s no secret that in light of the COVID-19 pandemic, people are drinking more. With the normalization of pandemic drinking in our culture, knowing when alcohol use has become a problem can be tricky.
We partnered with Fellowship Hall and teamed up with a number of substance abuse professionals to hear their thoughts on how to recognize when alcohol use becomes misuse, how to address it with ourselves and others, and how to avoid negative coping behaviors during tough times.
